Caregiver’s Guide to Dementia

June is Alzheimer’s and Brain Awareness Month. According to the Alzheimer’s Association, “worldwide, 50 million people are living with Alzheimer’s and other dementias.” As we raise awareness of those who are living with memory loss and brain issues, we also want to acknowledge the people who provide support and care for those with dementia each and every day.

Dementia and Memory Care: A Guide for Helpers

One in 10 people aged 65 and older have Alzheimer’s Disease. So, If you’re the primary caregiver of someone with memory loss, you’re not alone. According to the Alzheimer’s Association Facts and Figures Report, by 2050, the number of people age 65 and older with Alzheimer’s dementia is projected to reach 12.7 million.

In one year, caregivers will provide 18.5 billion hours of care. According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), “Approximately two-thirds of dementia caregivers are women, about one in three caregivers (34%) is age 65 or older, and approximately one-quarter of dementia caregivers are ‘sandwich generation’ caregivers, meaning that they care not only for an aging parent, but also for children under age 18.”

How to Care for Someone with Dementia

The amount of potential caregivers per person with Dementia is on the decline. According to the CDC, there are currently 7 potential family caregivers per adult. By 2030, there will be only 4 potential family caregivers per adult. If you take on the care work as a family member or friend of someone with Dementia, it’s important to know the day-to-day care work involved with your loved one’s activities.

The CDC cites many positive impacts of caregiving, such as a sense of fulfillment, feeling needed and useful, and learning about yourself, others, and the meaning of life.

However, caregiving for someone on an ongoing basis can also provide hurdles that caregivers should be aware of. The CDC states that many caregivers are at an increased risk for stress, depression, and difficulty maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

For example, the CDC reported that 53% of caregivers “indicate that a decline in their health compromises their ability to provide care.” How can you take care of someone else while still taking care of yourself? Follow the below strategies on how to feel supported as you care for others.

Get a Doctor Involved Early On

If you start to notice your loved one has memory loss, the CDC recommends talking with a doctor early in the process to receive the best care. Health care providers can perform an assessment to see if the memory loss is dementia, or due to other reasons like medication side effects, stress, or vitamin deficiencies.

Develop a Care Plan

Writing up a care plan for your loved one not only helps you organize all care details in one place, but it can also help you maintain a healthy life balance. You can start by filling out a Complete Care Plan form. This is a great and easy way to have the person’s medical information, including medications, insurance information, doctors’ contact info, and routines, and end of life care at your fingertips, should you need it.

Dealing with Common Behavior Mood Changes

The National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) reported that “approximately 30% to 90% of patients with dementia suffer from behavioral disorders,” including depression, anxiety, psychosis, agitation, aggression, disinhibition, and sleep disturbances. Personality changes are most common and affect approximately 70% of patients.

As a caregiver, it’s important to know what soothes them, upsets them, and plan your day around the things that might be triggering to your loved one, according to the Family and Information Services for the Alzheimer’s Association. The person with dementia is more likely to mirror the tone you’re setting when they feel like they’re in a safe, calm and loving environment.

What to Do During Aggressive States

The National Institute of Aging states that agitation and aggression usually happen because of a cause. If your loved one is aggressive or irritated, consider these triggers listed by the NIA:

  • “Pain, depression, or stress
  • Too little rest or sleep
  • Constipation
  • Soiled underwear or diaper
  • Sudden change in a well-known place, routine, or person
  • A feeling of loss—for example, the person may miss the freedom to drive
  • Feeling lonely and not having enough contact with other people
  • Interaction of medicines”

If you sense that your loved one is in distress, turn off all distracting noises and electronic devices like the television and radio. Turn off lights or close curtains. Sit down with your loved one and make eye contact. Speak to them in slow, short sentences in a low-toned voice. Try not to raise your voice in anger or frustration. Use your loved one’s name to connect and keep their attention. Try talking to them about their friends and family or recalling a happy memory.

If your loved one gets confused or agitated, respond with affection and reassurance, and do your best to access what is bothering them.

If the patient gets confused about where they are or what reality is, try not to convince them they are wrong. Instead, focus on their very real feelings and how they are perceiving reality in that moment. Lead with empathy. Let them know you are here with them, and they are safe. Sometimes holding hands or hugging can help solidify feelings of safety.

Ask Simple, Limited-Choice Questions

Instead of asking your patient, “What do you want to wear today?” narrow down their choice to a simple A or B answer. Try asking, “Do you want to wear the red shirt or blue shirt?” When you can, show your loved one the choices they have (physically pull the red and blue shirt out of the closet and hold them up, side by side) to make the decision easier.

Changes in Daily Living

What you and your loved one do on a daily basis may change after a dementia or Alzheimer’s diagnosis. More importantly, how you do tasks should change to assist your loved one and keep them at ease. Break down daily activities into smaller, easier steps. This makes things more manageable for you both. If the activity is eating a meal, place the utensils into your loved one’s hands if they get confused and patiently show them what they should do. If, when doing an activity, things become too much for your loved one (either they get frustrated, anxious, depressed, or angry) distract and redirect. Verbally acknowledge their feelings and then suggest an alternate activity: “I know you’re sad. I’m sorry about that. Let’s go take a walk.” Moving your loved one to a different environment or focusing them on a different task may help to lighten their mood.

How to Prevent Dementia Patients From Wandering

People with dementia and other memory loss disorders tend to wander for a variety of reasons. They could be simply looking for something or someone, or they could be bored and want to be elsewhere. Help your loved one not wander and get lost by making sure you incorporate exercise and fresh air into their daily routine. Consider adding “stop” or “do not enter” signs onto doors.

You can change your doorknobs to require a key to enter and exit for the safety of your loved one. You can also try placing a black mat or painting a black section on either side of the door on the floor. This may make the floor appear impassable to someone with dementia. Have your loved one wear an alert bracelet that has their name and your contact information. Consider registering your loved one’s information and photo with the local police. Tell your neighbors about your situation, so if they ever see your loved one wandering outside without you, they’ll know to get them safely inside and alert you to where they are.

End-of-Life Care

There may come a point where you are taking care of a loved one with dementia near the end of their life. In the final stages, your loved one may not recognize you or know where they are. It may be a confusing and sad time for both of you. There are small things you can do to keep them comfortable during this time. Gentle touch may be a simple yet reassuring way of connecting. You can also create a playlist of music they like that can keep them happy and calm. Try to arrange the environment to keep the person comfortable–remove any loud or jarring noises and use curtains to lessen intrusive lighting. Each person with dementia is different, so their needs at this time will be different. Create a space that is best fitting to their needs.

How Caregiving Affects the Caregiver

Over half of caregivers express some signs of depression and anxiety. According to, most caregivers have lower self-acceptance because they spend most of their time doing for others and putting others first.

Research done by Dr. P.P. Vitaliano and team, featured in Psychology and Aging, shows that caregivers with chronic stress are, ironically, “at a greater risk for cognitive decline including loss in short-term memory, attention and verbal IQ.”

It may be difficult to do but take time to ground yourself and refresh your mind daily. Try meditation, taking a walk in nature, reading a book, practicing yoga, or taking a bath. Turn off electronics, close your eyes, and breathe. Disconnecting for even ten minutes a day and just being with yourself can help you release stress in a healthy way. Also seek help from a doctor or therapist to talk to during this time. If you have other family members who can help, consider dividing up tasks so the full workload doesn’t fall on one person. Caregiving is a stressful role, and you deserve to have someone take care of you, too.

Do you need professional help for your loved one with memory loss?

Contact Avalon Memory Care.  At Avalon Memory Care all of our focus and attention is on you and your loved one. Since 1995, our family has been dedicated to providing individualized, flexible and compassionate care for those with Alzheimer’s, dementia and other cognitive impairments, and their families. Avalon Memory Care has pioneered a unique model of care that is tailored to the individual special needs of those affected with Alzheimer’s disease, dementia and cognitive impairments in a safe and secure environment. Our comprehensive philosophy of care means that we attend to the physical, emotional, social and spiritual needs of each resident to ensure they achieve their full quality of life potential with individualized daily routines. Avalon Memory Care proudly serves those in the Dallas/Forth Worth area, Austin, San Antonio, and St. Louis areas, with more locations coming soon!

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